How to Increase Wife's Libido

A woman's libido is often characterized as her sex drive. Like other needs and desires, it isn't uncommon for the female libido to vary in intensity and frequency over the years. A number of factors play a significant role in a woman's desire for sex. Relationships, self-esteem, body image, stress level, hormones and overall health contribute to the vitality of the female libido. With all these components in the mix, it doesn't necessarily mean that everything needs to be perfect for a woman to want sex. Certain techniques can be used to help improve a decreased sex drive in a woman.

Step 1
Discuss each other's likes and dislikes as well as wants and needs in the bedroom. Simply talking to one another can put you on the same page in regard to sex and help increase your wife's libido.

Step 2
Resolve any communication problems between the two of you, urges the Mayo Clinic. Fights and conflicts are natural, but, when left unresolved, they can affect the desire for sex.

Step 3Make room in your lives for alone time. Sometimes, couples lose their connection with one another when they don't spend enough time alone together, which can impact a wife's libido.

Step 4
Help out around the house. A woman's energy level can also contribute to a decreased sex drive, so make sure to take out the garbage, vacuum the carpets, scour the toilet and tub, empty the dishwasher and pick up the groceries to take the load off your wife's shoulders.

Step 5
Schedule time for sex. In an ideal world, sex is always spontaneous, but life can get busy, and you may need to mark dates off on the calendar for the two of you to have sex.

Step 6
Spice up your sex life. Your wife's low libido can be caused by a stale routine in the bedroom. To negate boredom and improve sex drive, consider trying new sexual positions, games, massage and other activities in the bedroom.

Step 7
Compliment your wife. This can make her feel more desirable and subsequently boost her desire to have sex. But avoid complimenting just to initiate sex; make it a regular occurrence.

Tips and Warnings,
Exercise has been known to improve libido. Make time to increase your physical activity level together through swimming, biking, hiking or playing tennis. Low sex drive can also be caused by medical problems. If nothing you try improves your wife's libido, encourage her to see a medical professional, especially if the loss of libido is distressing to her as well.

Mayo Clinic: Low Sex Drive in Women
National Institutes of Health: Inhibited Sexual Desire
American Congress of Obstetricians and Gynecologists: Your Sexual Health

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Dana George has been a freelance writer since 2005, penning numerous articles, Web content and marketing collateral for both print and online. His articles have appeared in Healthy Knowledge magazine, Minneapolis Metro Mix and Meefers. His writing credits include Prime Arthur, A Good Ten Acres and Truth in History.

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Can’t Find The G-Spot? You’re Not Alone: The Science of Sex

As much as I am inspired and impressed by modern medical and scientific advancements—nanotechnology, laparoscopic surgery, and genome sequencing to name a few—I’m also a bit shocked by the fact that we haven’t yet mastered some of the basics. Take human anatomy for instance. Yes, we’ve identified the twenty-six bones of the foot and the ventricles of the brain, but when it comes to deciphering the female urogenital tract, scientists are still at the drawing board. In fact, they have the same questions you might—does the G-spot exist, and if so, where the heck is it? Do women really have a prostate, and if so, can they ejaculate?
The Hotly Debated G-Spot
The G-spot, named after the gynecologist Ernest Gräfenberg, is an alleged erogenous zone located a few centimeters inside the vagina on the anterior wall. Its rise to popularity is usually attributed to the 1982 book, The G Spot and Other Recent Discoveries About Human Sexuality, co-authored by Beverley Whipple, a professor at Rutgers. Though the book describes how to find and stimulate this region, and sent intrepid women to try to locate theirs, it also gave the yet-to-be-classified area an almost mythical status—many have heard of it, and can generally describe what it’s supposed to do, but the majority haven’t actually seen its effects. Currently, there is no recognized part of the female anatomy labeled as the “G-spot.” In fact, researchers debate as to whether it exists at all. 
Part of the problem stems from the general lack of research into women’s sexual health, which has hampered the ability to make anatomic generalizations. A review published in the American Journal of Obstetrics and Gynecology in 2001 states “the evidence is far too weak to support the reality of the G-spot” and that “anecdotal observations and case studies based on a small number of subjects are not supported by anatomic and biochemical studies.”
Skeptics of the G-spot also contend there is no neural pathway to signify a physiologic mechanism. A study published in the Journal of Sexual Medicine in 2006 took 101 vagina biopsy samples from twenty-one women and found that although nerves were located regularly throughout the vagina, there is no one location that has more nerve density than others, dispelling the notion of a single erogenous zone inside the vagina.

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Recent research, however, indicates variation rather than absence. A study done in 2008 by Emmanuele Jannini and colleagues at the University of L’Aquila in Italy used ultrasound to measure anatomical differences between women who report vaginal orgasms (orgasm due to stimulation of the vaginal walls and not the clitoris) and those who don’t. The researchers scanned the genital area of nine women who reported vaginal orgasms and eleven who didn’t and found that those with orgasms have thicker tissue in the “urethrovaginal space.” The authors conclude that the size of this space is correlated with the ability to have a vaginally-activated orgasm; without evidence of what they call the G-spot, women won’t have this type of orgasm.
However, critics on both sides of the debate question the results of this small study. G-spot detractors contend that this place could just be an extension of the clitoris, which was found in 1998 by Helen O’Connell to be much larger than previously thought—the part we can see externally is really just the tip of the iceberg. Because the clitoris extends all the way into the vagina, perhaps vaginal orgasms occur because they are actually stimulating the part of the clitoris, or the glands, nerves, and tissue surrounding this area.
On the other side of the debate are the G-spot believers who question why the study showed only some women to have G-spots and not all.
Prostate and Ejaculation, for Women?
Part of the confusion regarding the G-spot may also have to do with the unclear characterization of female “ejaculation” and the Skene’s glands. The Skene’s glands are paraurethral glands thought to be homologous to the male prostate, and are sometimes referred to as the female prostate.
Some researchers claim that the Skene’s glands and the G-spot work in conjunction—or perhaps are one in the same. According to the Kinsey Institute, during sexual arousal, the vagina and the Skene’s glands swell so that you can feel them in the interior of the vagina—around the same area that the G spot is supposed to be. For some women, pressure here is pleasurable; for others it is not.
Stimulation of this area in some women can cause the Skene’s glands to produce fluid, like its homologous male counterpart. In men, the prostate produces secretions, which mix with sperm to produce semen. In some women, the Skene’s glands may produce the fluid that is the source of female ejaculate. Although it comes out the urethra, the ejaculate is not urine. Biochemical analysis shows the presence of prostatic acid phosphatase and prostate specific antigen, further indicating the role of a prostate-like structure in women. 

However, it is estimated that only about 10 percent of women experience ejaculation, so it is unclear how the glands function—or whether they exist in significant size—in all women. Most think they are a remnant of the embryonic stage, when we had the ability to be either sex. Males went on to have a penis and a prostate, while females developed a clitoris and in some, the Skene’s gland, or female prostate.
Just for Fun
Whether you want to refer to the anterior wall of the vagina as the G-spot, the clitoral urethrovaginal complex, or the female prostate, it is clear that some women derive pleasure from stimulating this area and some don’t. Unfortunately, anatomical differences are often interpreted, by the pharmaceutical industry and others looking to make a buck, as dysfunctions. Already there are G-spot “parties,” where women inject collagen into their vagina supposedly to make this region larger and enhance their sexual function. Drug companies are eager to find a female equivalent of blockbuster drugs like Viagra, and part of marketing a drug means creating the apparent need for it. 
While exploring this area might be fun, there’s no need to get hung up on the idea that it isn’t producing explosive orgasms. In fact, studies indicate that 70 to 75 percent of women don’t orgasm through vaginal intercourse. Even those that contend every woman has a G-spot, like Beverly Whipple, aren’t trying to point to it as the crème de la crème of orgasm; rather, it seems they are trying to explain the experiences and physiology of women who do ejaculate and derive pleasure from stimulation in this region.
Long Time Coming
All the anatomical and physiology debate is ultimately good because it means more research into women’s sexual health. Scientists continue to redefine textbooks and hypotheses, trying to figure out the form and function of the female erogenous areas as accurately as possible. What they can agree on so far is that the female genitalia, like her arousal, is certainly more complex and diverse than previously thought.

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by admin on September 5, 2009

Any person who has been married husband and wife are always eager to be more warm, passionate, and durable. However, many people who complain because they could not reach the coveted desire it, especially after a conjugal relationship, the body becomes weak and not excited at all.
Perhaps you include people who suffered so That, and still have not managed to overcome padahai already many drugs you use. Do not despair, because there are potent recipe that you might not have been tried. Recipes are:
a. 2 burtir chicken egg yolk.
b. 30 grains of black pepper.
c. 1 tablespoon honey, and
d. 3 leaves Chinese petai (retrieved seeds only).
How to make a potion;
1. Petai beans dried in the sun until completely dry, then ground pepper together until smooth like flour.
2. After that mix with the beaten egg yolks and honey and stir until blended.
3. Drink the potion and its pulp-pulp. This herb should be drunk by men and women. Prove yourself efficacy.